I sat down with Matt Formston this week. Matt is legally blind, a world champion surfer and a Paralympian, and he has spent his life doing things the world told him could not be done. I went in expecting to talk about big waves. I came out thinking about business.
A standard without a consequence is just a wish.
I have not been able to put that line down since.
Walk into most organisations and the values are on the wall. Integrity. Respect. Honesty. Trust. Printed, framed, sometimes lit from behind. Then sit in a few meetings and watch what actually happens. People arrive ten minutes late and nobody says a word. The commitment made on Friday has evaporated by Wednesday. The senior performer behaves in a way that would end anyone else’s tenure, and the room looks away.
The words on the wall are not the culture. The behaviour in the room is the culture.
Perfect process, not perfect vision
Matt learned this young. When he was a boy his father handed him a drop saw. Not a toy version. The real thing. The line his father used has stayed with me: it is not about having perfect vision, it is about having a perfect process. Do it right and you remove the risk. Do it sloppy and you create it.
That is where the discipline comes from. Matt cannot rely on seeing the wave coming, so he relies on a process he has built and rehearsed until it holds under pressure. The outcomes people celebrate, the titles and the records, sit downstream of that. They are the visible tip of a system nobody sees.
Most leaders want the outcomes without building the system. Standards are the system. And a system only works when it is enforced.
Values are what you say. Standards are what you enforce.
There is a difference between a value and a standard, and most leaders blur it.
A value is a belief. Kindness. Excellence. Courage. On its own it is unmeasurable, which makes it easy to claim and impossible to hold anyone to. A standard is that value made measurable. Specific. Observable. Carrying a consequence when it is crossed.
Matt put it more bluntly than I would. He described the induction nobody says out loud. Welcome to the organisation, we stand for integrity, respect and trust, and by the way, you are fifteen minutes late. The gap between the statement and the behaviour is precisely where trust leaks out of a business.
If you cannot measure it, and you are not willing to act when it slips, it is not a standard. It is a wish.
High standards do not reduce psychological safety. They build it.
Here is the part leaders get wrong.
Many assume a high bar makes people anxious, and that the humane move is to keep expectations soft. The opposite is true. People feel safest when they know exactly what is expected and can see that it applies to everyone.
Ambiguity is what makes people anxious. Not knowing where the line sits. Watching one person get away with something a colleague was pulled up for last week. That erodes trust, and it does it over months, long before anyone names it.
Clear standards, applied consistently, are one of the most reliable ways to build psychological safety in a team. Not the lowest bar. The clearest one.
The exemption is the problem
The fastest way to destroy a standard is to exempt your best performer from it.
Every organisation feels the pull. The salesperson who carries the number. The specialist nobody can afford to lose. The founder who wrote the original code. The logic sounds commercial. They deliver, so we let the behaviour slide.
The team reads that exemption instantly. What you have told them is that the standard is negotiable, and that results buy you out of it. From that point the standard means nothing, because everyone can see the conditions under which it does not apply.
A standard that bends for the powerful was never a standard. It was a wish with good marketing.
Make it a meeting, not a memo
The practical shift Matt described is one I have already started using.
Most leaders only raise standards when something has gone wrong. The standard arrives as a reprimand, after the fact, attached to a person. No wonder it lands badly.
Do the opposite. Hold a standards meeting at the start. New project, new quarter, new team, everyone in the room. The question is simple. What are our standards, and what happens when we do not meet them? Set them together. When people help build the standard, they own it. It stops being your rule imposed on them and becomes our agreement, held by all of us.
This is not remediation. It is strategy. It belongs in your operating rhythm, not in your disciplinary process.
Awareness is not change
Matt said something near the end that I want every leader to sit with. Listening to a good idea and feeling inspired is not the same as changing. You have to do it again. You have to do it next week.
I have watched this pattern for twenty years. A team heads to an offsite, feels the energy, writes the values, prints them, and within a month the old behaviour is fully back. Nothing was reinforced, so nothing held.
Standards are not a poster. They are a practice. They live or die on what you are willing to do the third time someone crosses the line, when it is inconvenient, when it is your best performer, when you would rather let it go and move on.
That is the real test of sustainable performance. Not the words you choose. The consequences you are prepared to enforce.
So look at your own walls this week. Read what is printed there. Then ask the uncomfortable question. Is that a standard we hold, or is it a wish we have framed?
Listen to the full conversation with Matt Formston on the Performance Intelligence Podcast.
If that question is uncomfortable, it is worth sitting with rather than moving past. The gap between what a team says it stands for and what it will actually enforce is where most cultures come undone, and closing it is slow, deliberate work. This is the work we do with senior leaders at Performance Intelligence: building the standards, the operating rhythm and the behavioural reinforcement that turn stated values into how a team actually operates under pressure.
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About the Author
Andrew May is a mental skills coach, leadership advisor, keynote speaker and author. As founder and CEO of Performance Intelligence, he works with senior executives and high-performing teams across Australian business, elite sport and the Australian Defence Force to build the systems, culture and mindset that make high performance sustainable. He holds a Bachelor of Applied Science in Exercise Physiology and a Master’s in Coaching Psychology, and has worked as a mental skills coach across elite Australian sport. He is the author of MatchFit and The Ripple Effect, and host of the Performance Intelligence Podcast.
